It is late on
December 31, you’ve spent the night talking to friends & family about their
goals & accomplishments. Your focus shifts to where you are in life and your
ability to accomplish your life goals. The closer it gets to midnight this sinking
helpless feeling starts to engulf you - will you ever be able to accomplish
your goals?
You react by
second guessing yourself. Is this your reality, or perhaps the eggnog-induced
coma bringing forth your subconscious thoughts? In a drastic attempt to make
yourself feel better about your situation you resolve to do things differently next
year. You blurt out your New Years Resolutions, resolutions that are most likely
the same resolutions you’ve made for prior years.
Making
resolutions is easy to do. However, making and accomplishing the resolutions
are two entirely different propositions.
Here are five tips
for making & realizing your New Years Resolutions.
1) Character
Flaws First - With so many choices for New Years Resolutions,
it’s best to focus on resolutions that are going to give you a good strong base,
a base that you can build on for years to come. For starters look at your
character flaws; are there basic skills you are lacking? As an example, do you
lack self-esteem or are you not confident in your abilities. If you had a good self-esteem
and confidence would that not give you the momentum you need to accomplish
other goals?
2) Realistic
Resolutions – We all
have a vision of the way we want our lives to be, but it’s important to keep in
mind that before you could run you learned to craw, walk and finally run.
Keeping this in mind, think about your resolutions – are they appropriate for
you? Picking appropriate resolutions that you can accomplish is going to give
you the momentum you need to move on to bigger and better resolutions next
year.
3) Detailed
Resolutions – Having a high level resolution is good
& can make you feel better. But a high level resolution is nearly
impossible to achieve because it lacks the details you need to accomplish it.
Not being able to achieve the resolution is going to leave you unfulfilled.
When you make your resolutions add as much detail as you can, what are the
goals and objectives for the resolution. What are your resolutions goals? You
should know! Creating goals & objectives adds depth to your resolutions, it
will help you visualize the steps required and give you some confidence that
you can accomplish the resolution.
4) Limit
your Resolutions – It’s
easy to say that this is the year I will turn all my inadequacies into
strengths. It’s a great concept but most likely you have spent decades living
this way and chances are that you won’t make the change over night. You’ll need
to figure out what is possible to accomplish, then list and stack rank your
resolutions - focus on highest priority ones you know you can accomplish. If you
have not been able to accomplish your resolutions, then perhaps you should
focus on just one resolution this coming year. The following year you can do
two or three.
5)
Step-by-Step Plan – With a list of resolutions that are
realistic for you, resolutions you have a high degree of confidence in
achieving, the next step is to create the step-by-step plan needed to
accomplish your resolutions. The good news is that there are a number of
systems already created that can help you accomplish resolutions. Systems are
all around us, most will cost money, but if they can help are worth it. An
example if you have a resolution to lose weight, systems exist such as Jenny
Craig, Weight watchers or you could ask someone who has successfully achieved
this resolution. Once you’ve found the perfect resolution, identify the
step-by-step plans or systems to help you achieve the resolution.
I love the idea
of New Years resolutions; it’s the time of year when you can focus on making
your life better. New years resolutions are a great way to help you create and
realize goals that will help you have a happy, healthy and successful life, and
what better time than at the start of a new year. Keep in mind that resolutions
can be difficult to stick with and accomplish. As a result when you’re creating
your resolutions pick ones that are realistic for you. Also keep in mind that
it takes more than a resolution, it will take a solid plan.
Happy New Years
& Good Luck With Your Resolutions!
John M. Hawkins
Thanks for this post, John. I love the reflective period at the end of the year. You have the opportunity to review the past year, and look ahead to what you want to become. And I love the idea of starting with character first.
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